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It's not every day you get to interview Tony Robbins. And so I figured I could either make this a headline-driven algorithm podcast or just spend an hour and a half asking the questions that mattered most to me. So I did the second one. Enjoy. Tony Robbins, strategist to some of the most important people in the world. People that you have seen publicly and probably many more that you haven't seen privately that have impacted your life. And he's both a wealth strategist but also a life strategist. And so we're talking politicians, royal families, US presidents, Margaret Thatcher, Princess Diana, Andre Agassi, Mike Tyson, just the greats. And he's also published books. He's got 100 plus companies uh in his portfolio that do north of seven plus billion a year. And as impressive as that is, it's actually 12 billion now. 12 billion. There you go. I was, I was going to say I was like I hope this number isn't wrong. I like looked all over the internet.

Um, most importantly, at least for me personally, is that you wrote books that um changed my life directly. Wow. And in a couple cool ways. So the first is there was an Indian guy who came here to the US 20 some years ago and he was working as a janitor and he had such a thick accent that they said, "You're never going to get employed anywhere. You have to learn how to speak. " and he tried to get, you know, how to get rid of an Indian accent tapes and those didn't really exist. And so they were like, well, you can check out these from the public library and it was Tony Robbins tapes. And so he would just mop the floors listening to Awaken the Giant Within. Um, Awaken the Giant Within. Sorry, I'm messing up. Awaken the Giant Within. Thank you. Yes. And so he's mopping the floors and he's doing it. And that man then started a software company, scaled that, sold it, started another company, sold that for 3.

4 billion. Did another company, took that from 200 to 1. 2 billion. Um, and I met him right around that time and he's uh my partner at acquisition. com. Wow. Beautiful. So that's the first impact. What's his name? Shironsa. Please give him my best. That's awesome. I will. He's, he would be here if he didn't have. Oh, he's the man.

The second direct impact um is that there was a girl in Michigan who was 100 pounds overweight, had just been arrested six times just in the first couple years of college and then was like, I need to change my life. And started listening to your tapes and um reading your books. Lost 100 pounds, competed in a fitness competition, and then got into business, built a whole roster of clients for herself, and that's when I met my wife. That makes me the most happy. Congratulations. The one that most significantly impacted. Well, that's the most important part of your life, of course. That's wonderful.

And then the third was, was, was me, obviously. And my actually entry into your world was Money: Master the Game. Um, that was the book that got me. And so um for that reason, I want to say thank you for just everything you do. Well, thank you for all the kind words. I really appreciate it. I actually had like five words written down for this whole podcast. Okay. And I tried to compress a bunch of questions into just the most succinct thing that was actually top of mind for me that I know will be top of mind for many of the business owners in my audience. So I have probably 60% business owner audience. A third of them are doing over a million a year. We also have people who are just, you know, just getting started, but a lot of people are predominantly business. There's my brothers and sisters out there. Yours, mine, right? In the game the same.

Bet on yourself and grow, right? Find a way to give. Yes.

And so the first one was, how do you see the dichotomy between duty and enjoyment as it relates to the impact that you want to make with the business that you have? Well, it's interesting. You know, words are tricky. They can produce emotions and sometimes we pick up words because the people are around. Sure. I used to play poker with a group of guys when I was in like 19, 20, 21. They were older than I was and they were all uh married except one and I was, I was surprised to see one day, well, one of them guys I knew he loved his wife so much but two of the other guys always were talking about their wives like I got to go back to the old ball and chain you know and one day and I couldn't help see it I was like I was a witness of it because I was always sensitive to this and the guy that really loves his wife out of habit of being around other guys yeah I'm going on my own, my own ball and chain right and the language we use produces emotion. And sometimes we can pick up words and actually pick up emotions without just like you know if somebody yawns you yawn too or somebody starts to laugh you do it. But words are even more powerful.

So duty could be a good word like if you're seeing yourself like a soldier right but I don't look that way. I look at it as um obligation. No, I don't look at obligation as saying the same thing. No, it's okay. But I say this because I saw this in some of your language and and I don't know if this is helpful to you. I don't pretend to coach you in any way but for me at least I can tell you I look at it as opportunity. I don't feel a sense of duty. I feel a sense of joy and being able to contribute. To me contribution is what we're made for. Like, it's not hard to meet your own needs as a human being, right? It's not that difficult today in the world we're in today. But to have a fulfilling life you have to have something you care about more than yourself. And so if you get into business just to make money and there's nothing wrong with that. Those people usually, you know, even if they succeed, they hit a limit of fulfillment because the economic returns only produce so much. So I don't look at duty and enjoyment.

I look at it as more like it's all enjoyment because contribution is the ultimate enjoyment for me. I mean I get into business for impact and economics are second. If I have enough impact, you'll never have to worry about economics in your life. And I found that to be true in my own life. So I don't look at it quite that way.

I look at it also though that if you think you're going to really enjoy your life and not do anything. Yeah. I think you're deluded because you'll wake up one day because the only thing that makes us feel alive is growth. You know, when you grow then you have something to give. And when you give then your life is more meaningful than just you know pleasure. You can give yourself pleasure by you know money, food, alcohol, sex, whatever it is you know but it's never going to be the same as when you have something that's larger than you that you're called to.

So like I hate the word motivation because I've never been a motivator but people use the word. So I'll say well there's two types of motivation if you'll think of it that way. There's push motivation which is let's say duty or I've got to do this or I have to do or obligation right or just I'm going to make this happen. And look brother you have a huge amount of willpower. It's pretty obvious by what you've accomplished. I have tremendous respect for you. Um and I do too. But willpower only goes so far. That's push. Yeah. Pull motivation is where there's something out there that you want to serve more than yourself that'll get you up early, keep you up late. And it it it isn't hard. It isn't duty. It is like what I'm made for. When you tap into that your energy level will explode.

Your contribution will explode. It doesn't mean overnight everything is going to work your way. Of course it doesn't work that way. But it'll give you the constant endurance to move forward in a way in which you enjoy your life rather than someday when I get to this number then I'm slowly going to feel good. Because it's not true. You get to the number and if it's numbers it'll never be enough, right? As you know that you've done incredibly well.

Um I have so many friends that they got their business, they sold it, they made a billion two or whatever it is and they you know 5 months later they're looking to get back in business again because so many of their needs were met by the demands and the challenges and the growing. I think the biggest problem we have as human beings is that we think we shouldn't have any. It's like problems make you grow. Problems call to you because listen you lift, we're both in good shape. You wouldn't be there if you lifted light weights and did 100 curls with some lightweight, right? You're built. You've built this body. You built it by challenging it. But some people maybe because of your background in the fitness industry no pain no gain. But today we know that's not true. You know that we know today that's minimum dose will produce the maximum result. You want to if you overdo it you tear down too much right? It's like finding the right dose just like anything else like a drug for somebody. And so I really think if you think you're going to just go off and enjoy your life and not add value you're going to be deluded. You're going to be frustrated.

You're going to I mean how many people do you know that were rich and famous and the world loved and they killed themselves. Yeah. Cuz they stop growing. I can list the half dozen people I thought of in the last 10 years that have done that process.

So I think to me it's not duty. But I do believe those much is given much is expected.

It's one of my favorite words in the whole Bible. Oh, really? I come from that place too. But to me, the expectation is a pleasure. I think the language we use trains our brain. It's like if you said to me, if I said to you during the break here, let's have some nutritious snacks. I said that to a mass audience, maybe for you, respond positively because you're fit. But most people are like, but if I say delicious snacks, they're interested. Or someone says to me, Tony you meet so many people, you know, hook me up. Show introduce me to a great guy a great woman. And if I said to them well, I know this guy or I know this woman. They're really nice, you know versus, you know, they're sensual they're sexy, they're amazing, they're delicious, whatever they say. You know it's a different piece. They're not nutritious. So, they're not nutritious.

But you see what I mean? The words change your biochemistry. The words you attach to an experience become your experience. And if you over and over use certain words, you won't even know it. And you'll train yourself to have certain what I call an emotional home. Certain emotions you go back to because the language takes you there.

And duty and responsibility. If you're trained like a soldier, yeah, that might work. If you've trained yourself that no pain, no gain, that might work. But how old are you now? May I ask? 36. Okay. At 36 years old, you've built such a foundation of business, of contribution, of wealth, of your body that at this stage, it shouldn't be pain. It shouldn't be suffering. I don't think it has to be any of those things. I think it can be total joy. But you have to kind of rewire your brain because otherwise that past training conditions you in my opinion. The issue does that make any sense? Yes. And I will just speak for me.

Yes. Um the issue that I have is that I got here from a push and anger for sure. Yes. Yeah. But I think on in the last however many years I genuinely believe like that's not as much a part of maybe there's elements of that that are still there but like it's not the core drive anymore. Sure. Me too. The difficulty that I have is like I work the hours that I'm awake pretty much. And the difficulty that I have is finding enjoyment outside of work.

And the contribution from that perspective like I've spoken to a number of billionaires, yourself included, where I'm like the next game, right? And so the game that we're in right now, I know obviously there's gonna be risks. There's gonna be lots of things that we're going to do, but I feel like I have a direction what I know what we're doing. And when I talk to some of the some of the, you know, billionaires that are in more private equity financial engineering, commodities trading, different than maybe what, you know, obviously what you do and to a degree what I do. I'm actually in that business, too, actually. Yeah. They were like, you should do something that like really helps people. And I was like, I feel like I do that. There's you know, only 0. 1% of the of the people who see any of the content, the courses the books, whatever that we put out, I monetize in any way. And to a degree I also reject the idea that charity must be something that does harm to you uh in order for it to be virtuous. Right? So that is probably a struggle that I have dealt with which is that I have um I have an apathy issue.

I'll tell you a microcosm of this is when I got in the fitness industry I got into it because fitness was the only thing I was really into. And so I was like well I'll do something I love because I was a management consultant. I was like well this sucks. I'm going to do something I love. And then as soon as I got into the business of fitness I realized that the vast majority of my day had nothing to do with fitness at all. And it was like billing and you know membership sales and like all this other stuff. And when I started getting the testimonials coming in of these people who were going through you know our process losing weight, getting off medications, whatever, maybe the first couple months it felt like something. But then on like the hundredth and the thousandth I was like yeah, you know, of course you stopped you moved better and you stopped eating shit and it worked out, you know, you know, like it just it stop basically the the the magic was gone for me. Yes. And so to the same degree, that's I would say it has occurred within what I do today but I don't even feel in some ways that I am driven. I do this because I don't know what else to do. It's like this is the only thing I'm good at. Yeah. And so I do what I've been rewarded for doing. The biggest thing selfishly that I that I was like really or I am you know looking forward to I'm trying to navigate that.

I understand. So it's almost you got a set point on your fulfillment and you're not going beyond it. Yes. When I was 20, um, I got obsessed with positive psychology. I read I had a trunk of books and every single one of them was self felt things like this early on before I had a business, any of that stuff. And I got to a point where I realized I had read all the books and my life hadn't changed. Yeah. And it felt very hopeless for me because my subjective wellbeing was the same. And so I came up with a mantra for myself which you might laugh at which was fuck happiness because I felt so rejected by the notion because I felt so unattainable for me. And so what I replaced it with was I will be useful. That's great. Meaningful, meaning a meaningful life is a very useful life right? And that's basically what I've oriented my entire life around was like that's why duty for me feels meaningful because it's like well, you know, I might not enjoy this whole ride, but like everyone else can get stuff out of it. And so that's the the struggle that I have cuz like I'm okay with that. You're okay with it, but you're torn by it, my friend.

Yes. No, a great obvious, right? I will accept that. I understand you'll accept that. But would you accept anything else in your other businesses? Would you accept something that's mediocre compared to what you're capable of? Of course. Okay. So, so I gave my two cents, which is all it's worth. Um unless you stay emotionally associated...

you know, I got to interview several of them, right... Think of them? They went out and they competed. They had they wanted to be an astronaut right. You had a version of that? If I want to be a business owner, whatever it was you had, right. And they beat everybody, right? Tens of thousands of people? They got down to 100, down to 25, down to six, down to the guys that go to the moon, right. and they get a rocket that's built by the cheapest bidder together on their back and they shot them out into the moon with technology that's far less than it's on your phone right now and they walk on the moon? They look back and see that image. You and I have seen that they took blue green of the Earth, but that was them seeing it and they make it back and survive. They splash down. They have a ticker tape parade. They shake the president's hand.

Now, what the fuck do you do after you've walked on the moon for adventure. Yeah, right? Like it's like you're 35 and you've walked on the moon. What do you do. And most of them became alcoholics and drug addicted? Yeah. And the reason is they forgot how to find that joy or that adventure and a smile. Mhm. And so you have trained yourself to be pain equals success and success has a certain amount of value, but fuck happiness. You have literally hypnotized yourself into missing it because you weren't feeling fulfilled. So the idea that these people keep telling you, I would tell you is true. And I'll just give my own experience. We're not the same person, but maybe it'll be instructive. I don't know.

So, I don't know, maybe 10 years, I found myself at a place where it's like I love my life. I couldn't be more fulfilled than this. I have the most incredible wife. I have the most incredible kids. You know, I, I, I want to be an athlete. I make it. I, you know, right behind you, I have like six national championship rings from different teams that I own or that I help to coach and turn around. I'm working with the greatest athletes in the world, the greatest business people in the world. I'm having fun. I'm, you know, I've got homes all over the world. There there's nothing that what else could make me fulfilled. I mean, now this is the it, you know, I can't be anymore and I'm not complaining. But then there's some part of me like you that was hungry for more still. You wouldn't be asking me that question unless there was part of you that wants a hunger for something called happiness or wants something besides just duty or you wouldn't ask me. So, and I'm not telling you I have the answer, but I'll tell you what it was for me.

It's like the same these people told you is me. I've always was contributing the same as you. I've been doing it since very little. Yeah. But I started saying, you know what I'm going to do? I want to do some moonshots in that area. I know how to scale businesses. I've grown businesses.

Of nothing up to 12 billion. It's like in those days it was like four billion. Like what would really get me going? And at that point, I've been feeding people since I was a kid. When I was 11 years old, we had no food on Thanksgiving. Somebody came delivered food. Changed my life. It made me believe strangers care. So I cared about strangers. And I started two families four families. I got to a million, four million. So about this point, I've been feeding people for 37 years. So I called my foundation. How many people have I fed in my lifetime? And they said 42 million.

I was like, "Wow, that's pretty awesome. " But I had no association to it. I felt good about it, but I was doing it you know, all these different ways. I was like there's so much pain out there. Yeah. I'm going to feed a billion people in the next 10 years. Took 37 years to do 42 million.

I started out by saying well, what if I did as many people I've done in my lifetime in the next 10 years? What if I did as many people in lifetime in one year? And then I was like, what if we did 100 million people in a year? What if I did 100 million people in a year for 10 years and fed a billion meals right here in the United States? And I got so ignited by that, Alex, that it was more than it wasn't money it wasn't business it wasn't success it wasn't okay, there's a system. I was like I have to rip apart. If it took me 37 years to do 42 million, to go to a billion is going to require me to think differently, come up with strategy different, be different, and to think of a billion lives. That number somehow brought a different level of life. It's kind of like Kennedy saying, "We're going to go in this decade, and we're going to land on the moon and bring a man back to the Earth. " And all the guys at NASA are like, "Bullshit right? This is not going to happen right? We don't have we don't have the technology to do anything. I don't care. This is what we're going to do. " There's something about building a moonshot for contribution on outside even what you've done in business.

And I did I said I'd do it in 10 years. I did it in eight years.

So then I finished that and was like, you know, I'm traveling around the world. You see people starving. It's just trying to do what you're going to do. I was like, no, I need something bigger. So I was in the UAE and I had a lunch with uh MBZ is the head of the country. Brilliant man. And he calls me the next day and goes, I want to have lunch with you again. I'm like, that's cool. I'm not happy to do that, right? So I come and sit down with him and he goes, "I brought you lunch today because there's two people feeding the most people on Earth and they should know each other. " So he introduced me to Governor Beasley who ran the World Food Program for the UN. Right. So I said "Well, I think he's doing more than me," he said. And so we talked. He later won the Nobel Prize, but we stayed in relationship.

And because of our relationship, he got so frustrated with the bureaucracy of the UN that one day he said, "Tell, I'm going to leave the UN. " Cuz during his 5 years we went from 80 million people at verge of starvation to 385 million people.

I just think of those numbers you if you can think of it and if you just think of his numbers it doesn't but if you follow like one child starving it'll change the oh yeah that system to something more ethere it's like watching a movie watch a movie about war it's too much when you follow one person and what they go through you feel it. So I got associated to that and I said to him "What if we create a strikeforce team? If you're going to leave, how many meals would it take to feed everybody in the world for 10 years that need it where it would give us time to build a sustainable solution? " Because you can't keep doing the same crap, right? He goes, "Tony, I don't know, 40, 50, 60 billion meals. " I said, "Let's do a 100 billion meal challenge. " I said "I did a billion meals when I started. I wasn't a billionaire. I've been blessed obviously since that time. You do great work. If you want to if you bless others, you'll be blessed, right? " I wasn't doing it for that reason. It just came about. So I said, "Well, there's got to be 90 and more guys like me in the world. There's 3,000 billionaires or owners of companies or, you know countries that'll do this.

" So we did this 100 billion meal challenge and we went to Forbes 400 and I thought we're going to get 50 of these guys, right? The richest people in the world. Four people stood up. Four. I'm like, this is not working. We got to do something different. But the I won't bore you with all the details. The strategy, the thought process.

And what kept me going though is it's not just having this unreasonable goal. It's having strong enough emotional reasons. And I got in these environments where people are starving. I got in the Sudan. There were a million people cut off by the rebels there and they were starving them out. This is just this last year. And the UN sent all these food people in and they killed the drivers and took the food. NBS, not NBZ. NBS from Saudi Arabia cares deeply. He tried to provide things. They killed everybody. So people stop giving monies. People are going to starve. So I said, "No, no, there's something different. " I said, "I'm just putting a line in the sand.

We are going to feed these people. I'm going to provide enough food for a million people in a week. Who will match me? " And I got Ray Dia to match me. Pretty soon I had 40 million bucks. But how you going to do it? And this is where it gets so alive. It's like, no one else in the world's done it. We're going to do this. Here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to hire a bunch of I'm going to find some military contractors. We're going to take C130s and we're going to take drones and we're going to deliver the food to the people. We delivered 22,000 meals that month and saved all these people starving to death. So when you do that, your level of fulfillment explodes. What the [__], compared to running a business, it's not even the same.

And so I've been hooked on that. So now we got 62 billion meals in 3 years, which is beyond anybody ever thought was humanly possible.

And then so now I said we're going to do a song with We Are the World. And I got Jimmy Jam, the most successful Grammy guy, and I got everybody you can imagine in the music business all building it together. We just completed our first version of that and then but then you know I'm lucky enough like you I'm very blessed so I have a private plane I have a 737 it burns a lot of carbon you know I want to be conscious how many trees does that burn 3,000 trees a year like I'll plant 100 million trees but not just plant the trees, I'm going to plant 100 million trees, and I'm going to work with the farmers and I'm going to show them how to go from making a buck a day to 12 bucks a day by having 12 and I work with a group to do that. It's like, you know a friend of mine's daughter was kidnapped and put into slavery, you know, just in insanity. It happens in America. It happens overseas. And nobody wants to talk about trafficking. But that got me associated to it. We actually helped somebody. And so I went out undercover. I had markings all over my face. They had a makeup person. They had scars on my face. Helped to negotiate these deals with these animals that do this. It's the ugliest thing I've ever seen in my life, but also the most beautiful.

But again, I didn't just give money. I didn't just write something. I just didn't put something. I went in the [__] trenches and I'm sitting there watching these girls go through the worst thing on earth. Meaning they're chained to a bed to do eight or 10 tricks a day and then we get them freed. We brought them to this house. They've never been out there. They're out on the ocean. They're down here playing basketball. They're like the change in their lives and saw that I'm hooked. So my wife and I have now funded 72 thousand started with 30,000 as many I grew in a town of 30,000 people. I want to free that many children as big as the city I grew up in. Now we're at 72,000. I'm going tonight. Will probably raise $5 million tonight.

I do matching funds for everybody at the event to do it.

So, what I'm trying to say to you is get off your ass. And I love you and I respect you, Alex. I'm not coming from that place. I hope you know where I'm coming from. You've accomplished more than most people dream in their lifetime. And I respect that. But when I say get off your ass off your emotional ass, stop this [__] happiness [__] Yeah. And just actually say to yourself, "No, I deserve happiness. I'm going to create happiness, but I have to do it differently. Done it before. I can't just get up and just work cuz I'm trained to work. I can't. I'm not a [__] robot anymore right? You're way too smart, and you got way too big a heart. I know you do.

I know everybody knows you well. I've seen you with your wife. You're extraordinary human being. You're you're not just the guy here who does all these wonderful things and they do wonderful things for people. You're absolutely right. But you're not connected to it and you don't have something that you're obsessed about that makes you feel fully alive. You're doing it because you need to. The difference between have to duty and get to. Yeah.

That's the difference between rich and poor. And rich and poor is not money, right? Rich and poor is feeling fully alive. That's rich, right? Poor is you work your ass off and you have plenty of money and you help all kinds of people but you don't connect it. And again, I'm not making a judgment. I hope you can feel my heart. It's just I want more for you. And I knew you wouldn't ask me the damn question. That's true.

So, it's like, but you need like your energy has got to be shifted. You need a kick in the ass. You need to get an environment where you're on fire. And then at that state, you've had that state before, I guarantee you, when you got here, but then you got so caught up in the push. I think you've missed some of the pull for your life. And I think this is not just true of you, it's true of most of us. Why are most people stressed? Like, if you talk to people, like successful people, they're always talking, I'm so stressed. I'm stressed.

I'll tell you why you're stressed. Cuz you're managing shit. You know, like, you're managing all these great businesses. You're managing all this great money. But you know what? When you manage, it puts you back in survival. Are you going to tell me it's more stressful today than the dark ages? I mean, come on. But what's happened is we have all this we're trying to manage and we're not made to manage. You've been so successful that now you've hit a set point. And now the only way that set point is people get to a point where they question and they start going, is it worth it or not? But I have to keep doing it. No. Sometimes you'll make a point you say, no, I'm going to keep what I'm doing, but I'm going to be connected to it at a different level or I'm going to change paths all together or I'm going to add a path that brings another dimension to me. Those are the places that go.

So I'm pretty passionate about this answer because primarily because you're asking, Nick, cuz you're asking a question. It's a very sophisticated question most people never ask cuz they never get to where you are, right? So, you've gotten to a place where you've hit a block, but you're only 37. You know, God willing, you're going to have 50 or 60 more years of your life. I don't want you going around doing it out of duty. I don't want you going around doing it cuz that's I have to get up and work. I want you to do it for something else. And so I can't do it for you. But it would be very useful for you to get in an environment. I'm not selling you, but like there's nothing like being in an environment.

I know when Pat Riley came to one of our events and you know you got 15,000 20,000 people and he's like ah I don't need this stuff. And you know after an hour he's like this is insane. At the end of the night he said to me he goes this is like the seventh game of the NBA championship ONLY LASTS 12 HOURS AND IT GOES FOR 4 DAYS. But without energy enhancement the brain takes over. All of a sudden now it's your mind doing it. The reason you're not happy is the mind is leading you. Get in your head, you're dead. Your heart is so big. And I'm not saying that to placate you cuz I know we have mutual friends and they all rave about what a generous incredible guy you are. But I don't see you feeling the level that you have. And I can see part of it is energy. You can execute with your mind so well. You recognize, I'm sure, like I do, pattern systems. You know how to put them in place, get it done, but then there's not the emotional connection.

You need a moonshot or two and you need to get connected to the people and see and feel the impact in a new variety because otherwise it's the law of familiarity. You get around anything enough, no matter how good it is, you start taking a little bit for granted. And that's just human nature. That's not you. So you have to wake it up and you got to get associated.

The other thing is you don't have a kid, do you? I'm trying to give you advice, but look, I have five kids and five grandkids. I adopted three kids. I was 24 before I married a woman who was 12 years my senior. She had been married twice before me with kids from each person. I didn't recognize the pattern, you know but it was one of the best things that happened in my life. Even though she wasn't right for me, and I don't think I was right for her, but I made that choice. I end up with these kids. So, I was 24 and had a 17-year-old son instantly, an 11-year-old, a 5-year-old and the one on the way. I've been doing my thing like you're doing very successful. I want to change the world. Now, I got to figure out all these kids in different stages of life. And so I tell you that because that marriage wasn't the right marriage, but those kids are now, you know, my youngest kid is like 42, right? I have a 52-year-old daughter and thanks to co-parenting I have a four and a half-year-old daughter. Co-parenting was good to me.

I never thought at 65 years old I'd have a four and a half-year-old daughter, right? Are you kidding me? I've already done all that. But it is the greatest joy of my life because she makes me see the adventure and the smile. I want to do more for her than I want to do for everything else. Every day is new cuz everything is new for her. You just need some new elements.

So, it doesn't have to be a child, but I wouldn't mind recommending the possibility for you and your lady. I don't know how she feels about it, but I think at some point in your life there has to be something more than you that calls you. I'm not trying to give you a sermon. I'm just so passionate. I have a love for you because you've delivered so much value. And I hate when I see someone with so much value. And to me, I see this as a little bit of suffering. You wouldn't call it that, but there's a conflict inside. I don't want to see you suffer. You're too good a human being. I don't see anybody suffering much less you.

Does any of that make any sense to you? What part makes sense to you? I'm curious. So, there's two, well, three things. So, one was uh the emotional connection part. The second was the framing of the opportunity and then the third was around suffering. And so I want to touch on each of those. So, from the suffering perspective, I find that really interesting because passion comes from the Latin 'pacio' right? Uh which means suffering or to endure. And so that made actually, a tremendous amount of sense for me. And so I actually reframed that whole concept as like find a goal worth suffering for. And so I've been very accepting of my suffering. And to your point, I actually don't have a lot of anxiety. That's actually not the issue that I deal with. I deal with the other opposite the opposite extreme of not giving a shit.

Is it worth it? Who cares? Why bother? You know, whatever.

But before you do, can I give you back if I may? Again, I'm not pretending to have the answer for you but I'm just giving my two cents. Asking cuz I want to see more of that smile that I see in you right now. Okay that's this is this is the real you right here by the way. But what happened is you're so in your head. So, even think of what you did like, a goal worth suffering for. Shit, that. I mean, I don't, I don't have goals that I'm worth suffering for. No, don't get me wrong. You're not every day is not like pure bliss. And there's lots of things that I don't love to do that I need to do to succeed or I got to deal with. That's part of life. But pain is part of life. Suffering is an option. You've heard that phrase, but it's a fact.

It's not just a phrase. That's why you've heard that shit so more. But when you make it your goal to find a goal we're suffering for, you're going to suffer, right? So, it's in your language and you've got your wish. And what's happened is this part of you is so strong, brother. This part of you is too, but this is the lead right now. If you change the lead to here, by that sense of connection, everything else and get the hell out of your head because your brain is always going to reduce things. It's like your brain will never make you happy. That's the problem. It won't even allow you to enjoy an apple. You go, is it organic? It's like your brain is analyzing so much. You got so stuck up here that you're missing this magnificent human being that I see in front of me here. You're missing to have the joy of him. So, stop this getting suffering for.

Can I ask a question? So, with the like, get out of your head, get into your heart. I love the language. I don't understand what it means. I know cuz right now you're in your head still. Sure. But by the way, when you laugh like this, what can you feel the difference? Like this guy right here is smiling at me right now. Is that a different guy? Okay. So, tell, so let's do this. I have multiple parts of me. Most of us in life try to pretend we're one thing and society makes you try to pretend you're one thing. I'm sure your wife has multiple personalities. My wife sure does.

When I first met her, I'd.

Have a conversation and she'd be talking about. I'd be like, 'Who is this person over here? ' Right? I had to come up with different names. And by the look of the smile on your face, you know exactly what I'm talking about. But I started naming the parts of my wife, so I knew who's talking, right? There's Bonnie Pearl, there's Sage, there's some names I can't tell you that are very interesting. Or is this Tuesday morning? But the point of the matter is, we as humans try to reduce ourselves for simplicity's sake and society does to one thing. It's easier to manage, right? There are many parts of you.

So, what's the part of this guy that's so intellectual that you know he's going to suffer and he's going to, you know, he's going to get it done anyway. It's not this guy right here. This guy like this guy here. This guy's very... Is this guy different? Yeah. Okay. So, you just shift it just like that. All right. So, who's the guy who's in his head all the time and is analyzing? All he's brilliant, by the way. He's absolutely effing brilliant and he can succeed in anything if that's what... What's that guy's name? Give me a nickname for that guy. One that maybe will make you laugh.

There you go. Analytical Alex. Analytical, what? Analytical Alex. Okay. Analytical Alex. Okay, perfect. Okay. Who's this guy who was just laughing with me, looked over his wife, big smile on his face. Your smile is infectious, right? You know, and this is you, right? Okay. So, who is this guy? Anabolic Alex. Anabolic Alex.

So, Anabolic Alex has so much life in him. Can you feel it? Yeah. Okay. So, you, what happens is, think about a relationship. Try it that way.

Most people get in a relationship, and they... I always tell people the secret to relationship: 80% of having a great lasting relationship or intimate relationship is selection. And people will say to me, 'Well, why didn't you tell me that before I was married for 10 years or something? ' I said, 'No, no, no. I don't mean who you select... who you select to be in this relationship. ' So, when you're in the beginning of a relationship, what do most people do in the very beginning of a relationship? What will they do for the other person? The best behavior, all that kind of stuff. Anything lighting them up lights you up. There's no transaction value. You're not trying to see what you can get. Like, your joy is making joy for them, right? And you're... you give your all.

You dress properly if you want whatever properly but you get the idea. You give your best foot forward. Then people get married sometimes and after a certain number of years, they forget and they bring a different person to the table who's always analyzing like what did you do versus what do I do and they're measuring. That's a transaction no one wants to be part of a transaction in an intimate relationship. And when you ever do a transaction it's not fair anyway because in a relationship it's like a team sport. You're climbing a mountain. Who's leading and who's following changes as you're climbing. If you're climbing a big mountain, right, and you can't lead the whole damn time that you'd love to, but you can't. You got to switch off, right? To make things work.

So, it's like which part of you you select to do business with? Which part of you is going to run your business? And so many of your viewers, I can see... I see people different than you. They'll be like, 'Oh, you know, I just... I you know, I know I need to fire this person. I need to let go of this or I got to do this, but you know, I just can't hurt them. ' I was in that stage at one stage of my own life. And if you put that person in charge of your business, you're going to fail. Yeah. Right. Right. Because you're going to be taking care of this person and hurting your platinum players, right? You're hurting your clients. Right.

So, it's like we all have to pick the person we're going to be and be conscious of that. And in your case, my friend, it's not so you can succeed because this will make you succeed. I have a strong one here, too.

But if I let this thing take over, I would be bored shitless. I'd be like, 'Okay, I got, you know, five sports teams and I got a billion dollars and I got this business, that business, and you know, everybody tells me every day I'm the greatest thing in their life and I changed their life and... and I got five kids and like where's the meaning of my life? ' That's what the brain does because the brain reduces everything. It compares it. Whereas the heart magnifies everything. It takes the little things that makes them bigger.

What made you attracted to your wife when you first met her? By the way, who's this guy right here? Anabolic Alex, right? Um, the honest truth was that I... once I met her, I didn't want to not be with her. Yes. Why? What qualities about her did you not want to be without? I think she let me be me. Yeah. She loved you for being you. Yeah. She just never tried to change me. And I think that was what was so unique. That's quite miraculous.

I... I'm fortunate have the same thing. I found that Sage loved me not because I was Tony Robbins. She just loved me. I never experienced that before. Right. So, and what else about her besides the fact that she loved you unconditionally? She also loved the same stuff that I loved. Yes. Um, and so when we talked, we just wouldn't stop. Um, and I feel like it has been one very long conversation. We spent two... two weekends apart since the day we met. Wow, that's beautiful. Like, not in the same...

literally in the same place. Does she bring out Analytical Alex or Anabolic Alex? We work together, so she sees both sides. I'm not asking that. I'm like which one can she bring out if she wants? Oh, she can bring out whoever she wants. That's right. That's her power, right? But who does she want more? Oh, she for sure wants Anabolic in a bucket. Yes, of course. Cuz look at this man before me. This like you're a different man right now when we started here, right? Can you feel that? Yeah.

I didn't do shit. This is you.

But if you don't identify... like, think about it. The strongest force in the human personality for any human being—you, me, doesn't matter. The strongest force is that we need to stay consistent with the way we identify ourselves. Right? Identity is the controlling force of human being. If you have identity that says I always find the way to victory, you will find the victory. If you're Lance Armstrong and they say, 'Oh, by the way, you have cancer in your brain, in your lungs, and in your testicles, which is inconvenient since you ride a bike. ' Right? What does he say? He says, 'I will find a way. ' What does some people say? Their belief is I'm at the effect of things. Life controls me. I have to...

what makes people by the way miserable is when they feel events control them versus they control events and all it is is a shift in here and here, right? So Lance had that belief system and he found the way... live but he also said I'm going to find a way to win using drugs that were illegal, right? And so it lost... cost him his reputation but he won all these things, right? So your identity is everything and so you have to be careful, because very often in life we identify to who we were a while ago like if I ask someone an event, do something. Well, I'm not that kind of person. Well, when did you decide what kind of person you were? Mhm. 5 years ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago, 30 years ago, would you use a phone from 10 years ago? You'd be an idiot. Mhm. Why would you use the same old identity? I'm not saying get rid of it. I'm saying let's expand it.

And in you, I don't have to... I don't have to teach you shit. You've done everything you could do. But what I could offer you is a conscious choice to find Anabolic Alex. Look, you've already mentioned you there and put him in charge. Your level of happiness... go and then stop your hypnosis. You hypnotize yourself for a long time. It's time to transcend. Transcend means end the trance.

Okay? Whatever you say to yourself over and over again, people... you know, you tell a lie big enough, loud enough, long enough, sooner or later, people believe you. You've told yourself a lie. Fuck happiness. Mhm. No. Fuck suffering. That's you got to be a new one. Fuck suffering. Like, I want to engage enjoyment. It's not my duty. It's my gift. It's my honor. It's my opportunity.

It's... it's grace that has put me at this point in my life. Think of all the other people you've met. You and I both have busted our ass. We wouldn't be here without that. But we've also had grace in our life. There have been... your woman is grace in your life. My woman is grace in my life. I always say, listen, I got my wife because of karma. I have helped tens of millions of people worldwide. And that was my reward right there, right? You know, and that makes me smile like you're smiling right now because I really believe it's true. So, it's like those little shifts... they...

I teach something called transformation vocabulary. It's one of the simplest things in the world. I was in a meeting when I was probably... your... no probably younger than you. I was probably 32 and I was... two other partners who were very...

Wealthy, super successful—one worth a billion dollars, another one very real close to it—but very different personalities. And we three of us were partners in a certain deal. And I won't bore you with the details, but I'll give you the core. The core was we went in negotiation, and I'm an open book as you can probably tell. I don't claim to be right about everything, but I'm going to share what I believe, right? Certain areas I know just like you know, right? Because of my life experience. But when negotiation for me, I was like, 'F negotiation. Let's just put our cards on the table. I want to do business with somebody who's honest. I want to tell you the whole thing. Let's do something fair, right? ' But you know, if you go to certain people, if they don't fight for it, they feel like they don't want to do business, right? They want to feel like they beat you, right? So, I go on this negotiation, and without telling my partners, I open the door and I told them the good, the bad, and the ugly.

And I said, 'I think this is a deal that would work. I want a deal that's more than happy for you because I want—I'm the kind of guy that I'll do a deal and then afterwards I'll give a person a little bit back even if they agreed to it. Just that's how that's how I got for 20 or 30 years 'cause I'm generous, right? ' So, I'm trying to be generous, but if you try to be generous with a shark who'll take your arm, right? So, I'm this 32-year-old kid. I'm not realizing you're much more sophisticated at your age than I was at mine. And so I tell the guys all this stuff thinking, 'Okay, let's come together. Perfect, but let's pull it together. ' Long term, who cares? As long as we respect each other, love each other, we're going to crush this opportunity, right? And the other side, without giving me all the gory details, takes it, uses it, and tries to manipulate us with leverage to make a deal that was far worse than we should be in.

Yeah. So, I'm effing pissed. I am angry as hell. I'm pissed off. I'm frustrated. One of my partners goes apeshit. He's like, 'I'M FURIOUS. HE SAID, I'M ENRAGED. I KILL THESE EFFERS. ' And he was so intense that even though I was pissed off, I WAS LIKE, 'HEY, IT'S NOT THAT BAD, RIGHT? ' You know, I'm trying to calm him down. While I'm trying to calm him down, I noticed my other partner; he's not even moved by this thing. Like, he doesn't seem even slightly upset, which almost upset me, you know? Like, don't you get it? He's too crazy in my mind.

He's not feeling enough. So, I said to him like, 'Aren't you upset? ' He goes, 'YEAH, AREN'T YOU FURIOUS? ' Like, calm down. He goes, 'Yeah, I'm, you know, I'm a little annoyed. ' The first one he said, 'I'm a little annoyed. ' I said, 'Annoyed? Like the word annoyed annoyed me, right? Don't you understand? That's what they did. ' He's like, 'DON'T UNDERSTAND. ' I'm like calming him down. In the middle of it all, I couldn't help. I'm a student of behavior, right? So, I couldn't help but notice all three of us have had the same problem delivered to us.

And all three of us have radically different emotional responses. Okay. Why? And I'm listening. And he's going, 'I'm enraged. I'm furious. I'll kill the mfers. ' And I'm thinking, I'm going, 'I'm so pissed off. I'm pissed as hell. I'm angry. ' And then I'm hearing him say, 'I'm annoyed. ' I said, 'Annoyed? I mean, that's it. ' He goes, 'Well, then he said, I'm a little tingled. ' I tingled?

What? Tingle? What are you talking about? Right. And he's going, so in the middle of all this, I thought for a moment, I couldn't help. I said, 'You know what? I don't think I've ever seen you really angry. ' He said, 'I don't really get that angry. It's very rare. ' I said, 'Well, what about—he had this deal with this IRS agent came to his house. He's a very wealthy guy, right? And the guy was the IRS agent, my guess is was, you know, you know, threatened by or upset by the level of wealth he had. ' And so he did some things that he eventually won. It took him five years to get his money back. He fought the IRS and won, which is pretty rare, right?

But during those five years, was brutal, you know, by anybody looking on the outside. I said, 'You're going to tell me you were annoyed with that? You were? ' He goes, 'No, I was—I was peeved. ' I peed, right? And then I asked him something really interesting. I said, 'What do you believe about getting angry? ' And he goes, 'I believe if you get angry, the other guy wins. You lose. ' Yeah. 100%. Right. And I'm like, I never thought of it that way. Yeah. And this other guy believes if you don't get angry—when I get angry, I get powerful.

And I thought, when I get angry, I get sharp. Right. But I also thought, when I'm really happy, I get sharp. And it changed me.

I started saying, 'Okay, I call it transformation vocabulary because the words you attach to your experience, as I said, become your experience. ' My mother would call me one time. I'm old enough. You're probably not old enough. Before we had cell phones, you know, we had these little recorder calls, you know, it was like on a realtor and you called in and got your calls. Well, I went to England and Europe for about—I don't know—two weeks and I gave my staff the time off. They've been working their tail off. So, my mom calls every day and leaves a message, doesn't get a call back. And when I called from England the little beep thing wouldn't translate. So I didn't know it was on there. I didn't know I was upset. I come home and there are 10 days worth of messages. And every single message she says, 'I am humiliated. This is humiliating. My son is not the president of United.

IT'S THE MOST HUMILIATING EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE. ' And as I'm listening to this going, my mom is always humiliated. Yeah. Do you know why? If there's a funnel of experience and it's painful. Yeah. He's going annoyed, pee. I'm going pissed off and he's going, I'm going to kill him. Right. My mom always uses the word for anything uncomfortable—for humiliate. So, she's always humiliated. So, like, I'm never depressed. I was so depressed when I got chased out of my house and I had no money in the background. I lived in this place of depression. And I remember reading this book by Claude Bristol was called The Magic of Believing.

And I read the book, and it talked about how to condition your mind. And one of the things I did, I wrote—I wrote on the on soap on the mirror. I wrote, you know, 'Only a loser is depressed,' which isn't true. You can be a winner and be depressed and feel that way. But I knew I wasn't a loser. That was my leverage. Yeah. And I literally took the word depression out of my vocabulary. I've never used it again. I felt down. I felt pissed off. I felt frustrated. I felt sad. I felt overwhelmed in moments. But I've never felt depressed.

'Cause when I was depressed, I got to the point where I was questioning whether it's worth it all. You know what I mean? And so your words shape your psychology. And so a few word changes, as stupid as that sounds, as overly simplistic as that sounds, or people give metaphors. They'll say, 'Oh man, I'm like—I'm like you like I'm at the END OF MY ROPE. ' And I'll go, 'Well, set it down and come over here. What are you talking about? ' We hypnotize ourselves, you know. Or somebody will say, 'Well, that person stabbed me in the back. ' And I'll walk up to them and I'll lean them behind their back. I said, 'I don't see anything. ' You know what I mean? No, I don't. Well, they—they betrayed me. Well, what did they do?

And you dig in. They go they told someone else something they said they wouldn't tell them, right? But the words escalated the emotion. And once they're there as a metaphor or as words, they control us. I invite every business person to notice this.

I remember, you know, I decided to get a divorce when I was 40 or—Yeah. 39 years old. And I—I didn't want a divorce. I had four fathers. I was going to stay no matter what. Duty, all those things that was things were going for me, right? And then I remember going to my friend Peter Guber and I was like, you know, I just—I just—I don't know. I—I can't imagine doing this. And then I'm going to do—I said, 'I'm going to give her more than half and I want to take care of her but I just—the whole part of starting over again you know starting over. ' And he grabbed me by the arm and he goes, 'I'm going to teach you what you've taught me for the last 10 years. ' He goes, 'You are not starting over. That language is putting you in this place. ' He said, 'You couldn't possibly start over. ' He said, 'You could take everything from you no one can take the man you become the knowledge you have the skill you have the relationships you have all those things but starting over was my trance for being in pain and when I stop doing that it's like no you know I'm starting fresh. ' I know that sounds simplistic but linguistics change how the brain functions and so part of yours is some simple linguistics but the other part is state 'cause anabolic, Alex, and look he shows up all we got to do so ALL YOU GOT TO do is SAYING IT'S TIME FOR ANABOLIC ALEX here and then a moonshot that's going to wake you up and then get emotionally associated go like if I just provided all this when I first fed people I would go there in a t-shirt and jeans not so acknowledge me, but so I could see and feel the impact as opposed.

I wrote a check or I did some good work or they did it. The more connected you are and that once you get in the habit of that like like people say to me all the time, doesn't it get old? People come to you 10 15 times a day and tell you changed my life. No. And it's the one things I enjoy most besides my family. But, it's, because, I've, trained, myself never take it for granted. Mhm. Right. Is that helpful at all? Yes. Okay.

From the stay your anabolic Alex you're asking do your best to ask me that question anabolic because you're you go back to your brain so I'm happy you got a very smart brain we can use him too but let's start let's try with anabolic as you ask so in order to create the emotional connection because that is like the thing that I probably have struggled the most from but I think it's made me disproportionately successful from business perspective because I can make good calls right but you know I remember the first time we wrote a million dollar check and then multiple million dollar checks to charities and I was just like okay I feel a couple million bucks for it That's about it you know like Yeah cuz you're not emotionally associated in any way. Zero. But like you know I did the the tours of the school and I was like I'm glad that this you haven't found the thing. Just contribution for contribution is not what I'm talking about. And this is where I wanted to get. So like so my my last little word of the ones we heard most of them was opportunity. Yes. And so I think the question that I have is you have unlimited opportunities. Yeah. More opportunities than you can sink your teeth into. Yeah.

How do you go through opportunity selection and balancing your kind of achievement brain outcomes and your philanthropic impact feeding families outcomes? I look at opportunities first on a business perspective. I look at opportunities first to see do I do I have passion for what it's about? Is it something that I would do for free if I felt it was really successful that it it it felt fulfilling? It felt alive. It felt it was worth doing right? Is there is there a mission behind it? Is it just is it selling widgets? I have no interest right? Second thing I look for is who are the people? I want people I want to enjoy being with like I would enjoy being with you in spite of this conversation sounding like I wouldn't because I'd bring out more anabolic Alex. I bet your wife brings out more anabolic Alex right? So I'm trying to make sure if I was doing business with you I'd make sure this guy was present right? Um but the but I look at the people and I look at their heart and soul what's driving them and I also look at their skill because you need both right? So somebody's got a track record and someone's negotiating with me right now on a really large project.

And if the project made no money I would probably do the project as long as I organize it so I can have the kind of reward for my time and my energy because the project has such reach global reach uh on a very deep level I'm very connected to it. And this person's built a business that went to $2 billion. So they got a great track record. It's not me caring at all but together 1 plus 1 could equal five not two. So a deal like that gets my attention because most of the money I make I give away any at this stage of my life anyway right? It's like there's you know I don't I'm not hurt for any capital. I there's no toy that I I'm looking for and it never drove me anyway. So for me it's like if it's got enough juice in it here the people I'm going to enjoy being with and it's got enough juice in terms of the impact and then it has track record of the person likely to help get there. So it isn't all my back. The two of us are adding some value together. It's about added value then I'm in. And it's like let's let's rock this thing. Let's make it happen. Let's have some fun. See mine is let's have some fun not not let's yeah do the duty right?

It's like I'm going to learn. We're going to grow. We're going to expand different things. We're going to touch lives. We're going to have these things. So those are my core criteria. And I'm not always right.

But one thing I will tell you that I've done in business because I've I've made some poor choices in the early days on business partners. You know everybody's selling when you're going to business partnership right? And um it's like going on a date you know? So it's like you get you can get sold and the question is not going to they do the job will they do the job well long term is the way team fit like they're deeper questions but I now when I have so many business deals the first thing I do early on I just had this happen recently with somebody's I own a a large power plant 1. 3 g power plant I'm converting it to hydrogen it's in West Virginia you told me about this yeah yeah so it's a great it's a great project but I have some people involved that shouldn't have been involved and so I have some new money come on board and what I do now is I go they sold me I was actually liking them. I felt the vision was great. They seem to have the track record. Everything seemed to line up. And I said Look you know what I always do in any new partnership is I have everybody check me out legally. I want you to check out all everything online. Hire a private detect if you want. Know everything about me and you can ask me any question you want but I want to do the same with you because that's how I know when I'm starting. Now by the way though nothing I hear will I take as true because you know it's not true but I'll bring it to you and we can discuss it. And then you and I can tell you know most people have large you and I have large [ __ ] meters right? We can tell when something's [ __ ] It's a perfect example.

And this guy we had a a deal worth you know 10 figures plus looked really good ghosted us just ghosted us cuz I And then I uncovered I uncovered three or four things he'd done that were not great. And I was like I just saved myself three to five years of pain. So I do believe in the practical side but I first I'm not even interested in going there unless I can first find these pieces. And unless I believe already there but I can get fooled right? I'm not I'm not perfect. Right.

So I have uh one last question for you. Um which is the most selfish of all my questions. So you're 36 years old. You have built businesses and and the skill set that you are most proud of is that you're good at helping business owners. Yeah. The only thing I feel emotional connection to is teaching young men how to provide for themselves and their families. That's the only thing that actually like I cuz I know that pain. Yes. Um so you're connected to it. That's the only thing. makes sense. And and to me I've built a lot of the business and and all that stuff basically around that. But I still still don't feel like that that massive emotional drive.

That being said what would you have played differently from your 36-year-old self to to current that you could kind of pass on to me? The basically what can I change about my behavior to maximize my enjoyment and size of impact? You have to make an enjoyment a priority which you've not. You've always gotten your priorities brother. You're good. You're you're an overachiever. Yeah. But there's two skills in life. There's the science of achievement which you're unbelievably great at and there's the art of fulfillment which you're not so great at by your description. Yeah. Right. And and by the way notice the language difference. The science of achievement it's a science. Like you and I both know if you want to make money there's a science to it. Right.

If you want to be fulfilled though that's as unique as every human being you're going to meet. And so you haven't found that piece. Now you gave some some clues along the way like why am I so interested in feeding people? Cuz I'm such a good person. No cuz I suffered right? So I don't want other people suffer. So I started out of that but now it's not out of suffering. It's out of joy. You can get started out of the pain. Passion does. But you don't have to stay in the pain right? You've kind of stayed in the pain even though you've gone past it. But what you just said is well a clue for me is I that's the one place I can start to get fully associated to it because I know what it takes to do that and I know what it feels like to be able to take care of my family. I know the contrast right? So I would take a look at that and expanding it.

But I try to find a way to do it where I had a moonshot something that's that like like right now you're shot of that. What's that? A moonshot of exactly that's what I saying to you earlier. I'm not saying you should go feed people or writing those checks. The problem is you wrote those checks the things you don't give a [ __ ] about. Right. A thousand. I mean it's true. You feel so feel poor. And then you probably feel bad about yourself for doing it cuz I'm supposed to do good stuff. And why don't I feel good by doing good stuff? Cuz it's not your passion.

I was like, I was like, I'm, I was like, I selfishly wrote these checks so that I would feel good. And now I don't even feel good. And now I'm just $2 million poor. But like, but I shouldn't feel bad about doing good. And then it was just the whole thing. By the way, [__], it. So, question, her heart was having that head of course. Yeah. So, analytical. But by the way, as you're laughing about it now, who's in charge right now? Yeah. Anabolic. Right. That little shift, which sounds like nothing. I hope if nothing else you hear me say you play with that just a little bit in your life and bring him to the table.

But if you come up with a moonshot connected to that like, I'm gonna, I'm completely the wrong thing. I'm going to help 10 million young men who right now think they can't buy a home, they can't do anything. Most young people here have been sold this [__] bill of goods. Inflation's 3% and you know, I got to have 24 million to have 4 million and it's like that's the catastrophizing analytical side. That's assuming that you're not going to have any growth in your assets. Yeah. And also when you're 86, which is when that would be 50 years from now, do you really think you're going to spend the same money? What the hell are you going to be buying? You already own multiple homes. You've already had those. They've all grown in value. So most young people, yeah, they are not involved with free enterprise as you know. And so that's why they want communism because they've never been there.

I've been, I was in USSR when I was 23 years old and I took a train from Moscow to Siberia with a group of scientists. I was brought because of my firewalking things like that by their government and back. I spent two weeks there. It made me a capitalist because every stop we did there's the same thing in every city. There's a central place where the train stops and we've been having caviar and all these Russians are like wealthy on this plane. They're all supposed to be equal. And then you see people literally 3/4 of a mile around multiple times maybe half mile around waiting in the freezing cold for half a loaf of bread and milk. Right? It's [__] But kids today are thinking 'Oh, it means free bus, free child care, free. ' They don't understand. There's no such thing as no free lunch. What life needs you to do is if you live in a free enterprise system and you're not an owner, you're going to be in pain. You know that you've built businesses.

I like, I tell kids sometimes like here's you got to understand. If you put 300 bucks aside where you still live in a home or you're 19 and you only invested and do it all in the S&P 500, you don't think about investing and you stopped investing when you're 27 and you've only put $28,000 in. At 65, you got 1. 8 million. God forbid if you keep investing, right? Until the numbers got bigger. You look at people today, they buy an iPhone.

Yeah. And they buy a new one every year. They've been going on since 2007. I looked it up just the other day. I actually made a chart to show a kid and he was telling me about you know there's no way you can succeed and I said okay you've had an iPhone since the beginning there's been 19 years of iPhones whatever it's been it's now he'd spend 20 I took out the exact dollar amounts for each one and what the stock was at the same day if you would have bought the stock versus the iPhone or just matched it $22,000 you spend over time, which is gone or $326,000 you would have. Saying 326 will change your life but for someone who has nothing it sure as hell would right but the other part for it is is helping people understand that it's like if I get to be an owner, the whole game changes. Then inflation can be my friend. I don't have to live in this fear I can't have something.

So you you could bring that to kids or whatever age. You could bring in the biggest say I got to come something I want to take 10 million or a million or some whatever would float your boat. And then when you see those kids and you see scale of that and you see them taking care of their families and you hear stories about that, I don't think it'll be old for you. What'd you write the checks for? Kids after school care. Okay. And you don't have any kids. So you have no association that whatsoever. Right. Okay. It's like [__] But you and I'm not saying write a check. I'm saying go make this happen. Like go you you've done so much. You need to find something there. But you you found the thread.

Yeah.

For me, I, I wrote, you know, I wrote four books on finance. I never expected to do it. You know, I wrote it cuz I got pissed off in 2008. I've coached Paul Tudor Jones for 24 years. One of the greatest financial traders in the history of the world. Every single day measured what he's doing. Coached him through all these pieces. He had the most success in 1987 when this stock market had his biggest percentage drop in history, 20% in a day, and he made 100%. But then it was like the moon. He went to the moon and then what do you do? And then he broke his leg and then he dropped. So I had to turn him around. Now we've been friends. I worked with him all those years. I learned so much from him.

But when we got to 2008, and I don't know all of your viewers have been around back that long, but it was much more brutal in some ways than 2020 and because in 2020 they gave people money. There was no money then, right? And I remember being so angry because I knew a small number of people basically almost destroyed the entire economic system and then I thought they're going to be punished and we gave them more money. Yeah. So that they could have more money they can't use. That's right. Exactly. Right. So I was, I was incensed. So out of that anger I said I don't have all the answers but I have one thing. I have access. Yeah. So I'm going to interview 50, the book you read 50 of the smartest individuals on earth who started with nothing. Nobody from the lucky sperm club. They all started from scratch.

And I'm going to see even though they're radically different. What do they have in common? I'm going to write a book that my billionaire clients are going to love but an average person could do as well.

Well, that journey has never stopped. Then I was like how do I help people accelerate? It's like I look around today and I see so many people that don't feel they have a compelling financial future. And so I start looking around and say that's my heart just so you know. Pardon me. That's my heart. Okay. Well, me too. So my my approach to that and maybe I'm going to plant a seed with you because maybe be something when you're teaching people to add. You probably already know this, but you may not know this part.

So I'm looking around and you know like in the last 39 years every single stock market in the world which is where most people put their money besides real estate, right? And if it's their own home, it just barely beats inflation, right? As you well know, every stock in the world has been beaten by private equity by average private equity. So I interviewed the top 13 guys in the world right? Well, the top 13 guys in the world, it's wonderful to interview them, but how are you going to get money in there, right? Because it's like trying to buy an S&P 3 Ferrari, right? I went to go get one and they're all pre-sold at 3 million bucks right? You know, it's like, but if you have one and if you know the right person, you know, so I I got into some of those cool funds, you know, like, you know, Vista. Yeah. You know, you know Robert Smith is I mean, he's a genius. He's got a hundred billion dollar fund. He's averaged 26% compounded per year for 25 years. It's like, it's, it's unheard of, right? Nobody in But you can't get in. Or you might get in.

I got in, but I got such a little It's like, we'll take $100,000 $100,000.

But but okay, so let's look at this. Let's just do this. Try this for people at home. In the last 39 years, if you put your money in the S&P 500, it's averaged 9%. Okay? So if you put a million bucks in there, you know, at the end of this time, you'd have 28. 6 million. If it's 100,000, it'd be 2. 86 million, right? But you put in average private equity, this being every stock market in the world, average private equity, not the guys I'm talking about average private equity is averaged 15. 7% per year around the world. 75% higher per year, compounded year after year. Yeah. You put in that same million bucks, instead of 28 million, you have 293 million more. 10x.

Okay, forget your 3% worries that you're talking about. Screw that [__] Let's take it 100,000. Then you'd have instead of 2. 8 million, you have 29 million. Right. Same time. Yeah. Passive investor.

But then the next thing you got to say to me is Tony. Well, yeah, that's great Tony, but you can't get access. So that's what I believe too. Like I had access, but small access. And then I met a guy who had been through my business master program for 20 years. He started his business. I was telling my frustration about I'm only getting these little slivers. I don't have to change your life, right? I want to get in bigger. And he goes, "Tony, I'm going to ".

"Tell you where I put the majority of my money. " This is a very sophisticated investor. And I said, "Okay, I'm leaning in on this one. " Right? He goes, "There's a company in Houston, Texas. " In Houston, Texas, I'm thinking Singapore, London, you know, New York. He goes, "Off the beaten path that has mastered something unbelievable. " He said, "You know the difference private equity? " I said, "Of course. " He goes, "What if instead of buying the fund and fighting to get a small piece, you could own the company that owns all the funds and make the two and 20 yourself side by side with the owners? " Yeah. I said, "You could do that? " He goes, "There's only a few companies in the world that do it. These guys are brilliant at getting what they call general partnerships because you're a limited partner, as you know, if you go and you got a limited amount, you get in there. " Yeah.

I said, "How do you do that? " So I went and met with this guy. Turned out he was a graduate of my program 20 years ago. Started his business with it. It's called Cass. It's Christopher Zook. And I talked to Christopher and so I put some money in with him.

And the next thing I know I got ownership in Vista. Not I got a little slice of Vista right? I'm getting the two and 20. So I have 95 of those companies now that have a piece of it. It is nothing but a cash machine beyond our wildest dreams. I get to work with the smartest people in the world. They're working all night and I'm right beside them earning without working all night on those faces. Right.

And now the same thing with sports teams. I worked forever to get my first sports team, LFC, and you got to go through every they look at a microscope through every part of your body. It's just ridiculous, right? But the rules have changed recently. And now, if you have private equity and the owners don't own other sports teams there's some technicalities with it. There's a small percentage that you can buy. So I own part of I own the Dodgers. When I was growing up, I couldn't be in right field. I couldn't afford a ticket right? The Dodgers. I own the Golden State Warriors. I own the Pittsburgh Penguins. I own Aston Martin's F1. I know pieces of all these businesses all through our business. Then I became partners with him and grew that business.

When I met him, it was 1. 8 billion. That was four years ago. Now we're at 11 billion just in AUM in that business. So the opportunity to grow is insane. But here's the problem. You had to be a credit investor, which means you got a million dollar net worth or qualified purchaser, 5 million. So your young people are going to go, I can't do that.

I wrote this book because I found out it just passed three weeks ago. The House just passed the new rule. Why should the richest people in the world be the only people to get access to the most effective investments? Don't get me wrong, you have you got to diversify but you got to have a significant port here if you get this kind of 10 times return. And so they were smart because like they say, well, you're not sophisticated. Well, some people have a million dollars, but they inherited it. They're not sophisticated or they're a good business person, but they're not a good investor. So a group of people, I was arguing with this, and it wasn't me. Finally got resolved three weeks ago. They passed the law. Now, the Senate will pick it up in April. And what it says is you don't have to be credit investor to get access anymore. All you got to do is take a test. They're working on what the test is. You study for the test, and now you can put your money and get the same kind of returns as the richest people in the world.

And in my case, you can own a piece of those businesses.

So, when when you're going to show people how to build their own business, the only challenge with the own business is you and I both know if there's any law of finance that everybody knows, but very few people practice, it's asset allocation, right? You don't put all your eggs in one basket. So most people put out the eggs in their business because they feel more control. And then there's a co that happens, right? So you got to I always tell people you need two businesses. The one you're in, the one you're building but also that business plus an investment business where it's growing. So, if anything happens here, you're taking care of here. And if they both win, you get there faster than you ever dreamed of. But you got to know where to put your assets. And this is just part of that process.

So but for you, it's like I know what my passion is. There you can feel my passion. I will tell everybody about it. It's like I don't give a [__] about making money and it's like and of course I make money too. It's like it's unbelievable. You got to find that with this piece. What What do you think it would be if you had to tell me right now? I'm not talking to analytical guy. Come back to the analog. I saw I saw your eyes there. The anal not the analog guy. What would he say? I'm going to crush something. It's going to feel so good. I'm going to feel so much joy.

I'm going to do X for this many young men and I'm I'm going to it's going to be part of who I am and my legacy and what I'm going to live. what I'm going to enjoy up not someday along the way. To answer the question, I think back to what was the big moment for me? Like what was the moment where like wealth felt achievable? Yes. So, for me, it was $100,000 in my bank account. Okay. That was the that was the moment I wrote about in my book. Leila and I were on the kitchen counter and I was like "Look, babe, we actually did it. " And it was years and years ago moment, too. It's a good moment. And it was to to this day the richest I've ever felt. And I think it's because it's the largest relative change in wealth I've ever experienced. Because you go from $1 to 100,000, you get 100,000x. Yeah you can't 100,000 x 100,000 takes a lot longer than and and that and by the way once you get the 100,000 your brain expands, right?

Yeah. You see what's possible. And so I think it was cuz the first time that I was able to go out of survival and I remember I looked at Leila and I said we can [__] up for three and a half years. That's I was like, we we could we could we can completely remember overhead of that time. Exactly. Three and a half years. And she's like yeah this guy's a winner. Really? all all 100 grand for the both of us for three and a half years. Gee golly. You know, this is after she picks me up from from jail for getting a DUI. You know what I mean? Just that's why she's my my my um but that that moment then like all the other milestones after that that was the one. And so I think that I think because that one milestone is this is huge. It changes your identity.

Yes, it it does. It changes your whole viewpoint of the world. your point about the capitalism the capitalist system is that like that is a big enough change where you believe in capitalism. That's right. And I think that is a a quantifiable goal that I am personally connected to that I would love to help deliver. That's great. I love that. If I can help with it, count on me. I'm in to help you in any way I can. And there I'll give you educational material. Anything that you want to add to it, you're welcome to add to, I'll give it for free. But that that's exciting and and I love the way you did that. You went back to a moment where you knew what it was for you. So, that's where the passion comes from, right? You know, and by the way, that wasn't pain.

Yeah. That passion was an excitement that you felt. So, I know the word passion literally comes from pain. I know that, too. But sometimes we get caught up on the original definition versus how we can live it right? But I love this idea.

If you did that, how many how many people does it matter how many how many but one person alone feels amazing when you do that? But is there a number that in your mind would say like this would be like insanely fun, insanely great? I think I would look at a gener like the generation. So it' be like how many men are in Gen Z? Perfect. And then like that sounds like a good starting point. But what would be what would Well, that's a lot of kids. What's the first target though? Because just like it's like I do the billion then I went to the 100red billion right? You know you want an unreasonable goal but you need a timeline. So what would be our 36-month goal or 24-month goal? That would be unreasonable but would get you up early and keep you up late. 100,000 men at a 100,000 is a billion in actual bank account wealth. And that sounds that sounds like a nice round number. Yeah.

Like a nice round number. Help help 100,000 men get hit 100,000. Get 100,000. Yeah. And feel the way you felt from that day. Yeah. That's nice. And then the second lesson you can teach them along the way Yeah. is how to keep enjoying it, my friend. Yeah.

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